If I were to tell you to sit down and write your autobiography, most of you would run for the door. Who has time to do that? While a few of you may have the ability and time to write your вЂњcompleteвЂќ story, for most it is an overwhelming task. Instead, I encourage you to write story вЂњvignettes.вЂќ The dictionary describes a vignette as 1) short, usually descriptive literary sketch, and 2) a short scene or incident, as from a movie.В This makes it sound much easier, doesnвЂ™t it... to share вЂњshort scenesвЂќ from your life?
Of course, the next problem we all face is finding the time to write our memories. While our lives are filled with a lot of "have to dos," upon further inspection we find there are some "quiet times" in our day. For early risers, this may be when you first get up and no one else is yet awake. For night owls, it may be after the family has gone to bed. And, of course, there's that space of time when we are eating lunch or taking a break. I suggest you find the time that is right for you and make that your MEMORY TIME.
Some researchers say it takes 21 days to form a new habit, others say 66 days... whichever it may be, that is our goal. Make MEMORY WRITING a habit. Make it an important part of your day that you accomplish without any more thought than you do to brushing your teeth... it's just automatic.
Once you've determined the "when," you need to determine the "where." Find a location where you are comfortable and can mentally reminisce about your life events. Remember that we are trying to make this a habit, so all your stories don't have to be 5-6 pages long, instead you just need to write something -- a page or two, or a paragraph or two. The main thing, WRITE SOMETHING!
Now that figured out the "when" and "where" to write, you need to determine the "how." Do you like to handwrite your stories in a tablet? Or do you prefer typing them on your computer or typewriter? I prefer typing as my handwriting isn't all that great... sometimes I can't even read it. And best of all, I like to write mine on my personal Legacy Writer's Platform where I can safely store them (cloud-based storage) and easily share them via email with family members. You can learn more about the Writer's Platform by going to http://ylylshop.com/?product_cat=books-writers-platform. The Platform is also included when you purchase the Your Legacy, Your Life book package. Check it out at http://ylylshop.com/?product_cat=book-packages.
Once you start writing your memories, you'll find you have created a gift that will be enjoyed for years to come. Enjoy the process and be assured that the end results will well be worth the effort.
According to the Statistic Brain Research Institute (http://www.statisticbrain.com/new-years-resolution-statistics/), 45% of American's make New Year's Resolutions each year. However, only 39% of people in their 20s achieve their goal, and the percentage drops with the older population as only 14% of people over 50 are adequately motivated to reach their goals.
I found it interesting that the first week, 75% have stayed on track, but by the time they reach 6 months, only 46% are motivated to continue. How are you doing with yours? Did you set a New Year's Resolution? If so, are you still committed to achieving it?
One year I decided I would never eat chocolate again as I was a chocoholic. That was about 26 years ago and I still haven't touched chocolate in any form. However, I have to admit that there are years I have set resolutions and fall in the 25% category of not getting past the first week. What's the difference in my level of commitment? I'm not sure, I wish I knew.
This year my goal is to continue writing my memories and life stories, but on a regularly scheduled basis. I thought you might enjoy reading the top 10 list of New Year's Resolutions provided by SBRI. And, to help those of you who have committed to doing one of these things, I've added some tips as to how you can use your resolution to help you start writing your life stories.
1. Lose Weight -- Our children and grandchildren would enjoy reading your thoughts about how society puts such a stigma on being overweight and your own struggle with weight control (if you do). What has worked for you and what hasn't.
2. Getting Organized -- It's time to organize your thoughts and start writing your stories. I would suggest you start with memories of your childhood and adolescent years and move into your adult years from there. Organize your stories in a binder, or sign up for the Writer's Platform where you will find writing prompts and you can write and safely store your stories for future generations. Sign up now and get a free 3-month trial: http://ylylshop.com/?product=legacy-writers-platform
3. Spend Less, Save More -- Share with your experiences with money (spending/saving and investing) and give them suggestions for being more successful in these areas.
4. Enjoy Life to the Fullest -- Sometimes we get so caught up in every day life, we forget to enjoy the moment. It's time to write your bucket list. If this were to be the last year of your life, what would you want to do with it? Plan today to life this year to the fullest.
5. Staying Fit and Healthy -- Exercise - both mental and physical are important to your well being. Set time each day to get to the gym or to walk a mile, and then set time aside to write your memories. Looking back over your accomplishments will help you feel better about your life, and counting the blessings you have enjoyed will help add to your peace of mind.
6. Learn Something Exciting -- Time to learn, to grow. Start a Memory Circle where you meet with family and/or friends to share memories. It's a great way to create a stronger bond with the people you love and to gain a respect for them and the challenges they have faced throughout their lives.
7. Quit Smoking -- I've never been a smoker, but I hear it is one of the hardest habits to break that there is. Keep a journal of your experience. Share it with your children and grandchildren to discourage them from ever starting. Remember that legacy writing is about more than just the good times in your life, it's also the hard times and the lessons learned.
8. Help Others in Their Dreams -- Ever feel depressed? Step outside your own little world to help someone else in need is a great way to feel better about life in general. Share with your child and grandchildren in your legacy writing what you did and how it made you feel. Encourage them to do volunteer work.
9. Fall in Love -- Have you fallen out of love with your spouse, don't have time for elderly parents or children. It's time to fall back into love. List each person you love and the attributes you love about him or her. Then take the time to write a legacy letter to each of them, expressing how special they are in your life and what you love and them. You'll find yourself falling in love again... in a very good way.
10. Spend More Time with Family -- Read number 6. Starting a Memory Circle with family will be a fun activity for everyone. In Your Legacy, Your Life, you'll find lots of activities and memory prompts. Memory Cards are available for group activities. Get started today to strengthen the bond between family members. These products are available at http://ylylshop.com.
Good luck with your New Year's Resolutions. Let us know how you're coming along and your ideas for meeting New Year's Resolutions by sharing comments on this post.
Good living, great life!